They say a family would run smooth only if the woman in the family knows to manage well. So I set off to find out how wives are expected to balance the string of family lives.
“For that you need to be a balanced-wife“, says a few. So what is a balanced wife?
If the wife gets up early in the morning, she “always runs away from the bed and puts him in second priority to the house hold”. If the wife doesn’t get up early, she “is too lazy and neglects the family”.
If the wife makes good tea, “it is just her routine”. If the wife doesn’t make good tea or breakfast for one day, she “is a bad cook”.
If the wife has to leave home early for work, she “doesn’t need to earn us a living. Family should be first”. If the wife goes late to work or comes back late from work, she “is a bad manager of time”. If the wife comes back early from work, she “has no big role there at office”.
If the wife buys a shirt for the husband from her salary, she “wastes a lot of money on dress”.
If the wife doesn’t like a dress that her in-laws choose, she “has no dressing sense”.
If the wife reminds you to pay the bill, “I know to do things”. If the payment goes beyond due date, “You should not have forgotten”.
If the wife asks for help in the kitchen, “it is your duty. If you can’t manage with just two of us, how will you manage when we have children?”
If the wife has a back pain and asks for a small massage, “Can’t u see that am busy?”
If the wife argues, she is arrogant. If she does not respond to an argument, she is irritating.
If she questions, she acts too smart.
If she cries, she is over-sentimental. If she cant tell why she did so, she is unreasonable
If the shirt is not ironed on time, “she doesn’t know to do things properly”.
If the clothes are not folded for a day, “she cant keep the house clean”.
If the children get low grades, “she is doesn’t take proper care”.
If her parents does not see his’ during a function, then “they purposefully avoided”. If his parents do the same, “Why should they go to her parents? It is they who should come and pay respect to the guys’?
If her parents give a visit without acknowledgement, “they are so informal”. If his parents do the same but unfortunately there is no one at her home, “they don’t give us importance”.
If her mother’s sister’s daughter’s in-law is getting married, not only his parents, but his father’s sister’s husband’s parents have also to be invited, else “they do not know to treat the guy’s family properly”.
This society who knows only to question, disdain & contempt the girls, wives, daughter-in-laws & mothers and believes that women and her needs could be neglected, compels me to derive at the conclusion that the expectation from the so called balanced wife is this..One who successfully takes care of the family (big or small) the way they want, attend to all their needs, satisfy all of them, follow their rules, be answerable to all their questions, be submissive throughout and accept any mental or physical piercing moment in silence…. Irrespective of whether she slept the previous night, Irrespective of whether she had something for tea, Irrespective of when she has to leave or come back from work, Irrespective of how her day at office was, Irrespective of whether she is healthy or not, Irrespective of whether she is respected or cared for, Irrespective of what she earns, Irrespective of whether her own life is balanced or not….
PRECISELY, A BALANCED WIFE IS ONE WHO IS AWARE OF THE RIGHTS OF THE HUSBAND AND HIS FAMILY. A BALANCED WIFE SHOULD ALSO BE AWARE OF THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF THE WIFE AND HER FAMILY.
When will be the time when they lay rules for the men?
When will be the time when they stop blaming and start helping?
When will be the time when they learn that respect is give and take?
When will be the time when they learn to appreciate wives and mothers for what they do?
When will be the time when they learn that a smooth family is the result of teamwork?
When will be the time when they learn that women have to be treated like humans if not equals?